Conversation is not simply something to do to let the time go by or reduce tensions or awkwardness. Conversation is, in very exciting and unexpected ways, a way to connect.
There is something special in finding someone who shares in your interests, who is enthusiastic about what you love. There is also something frustratingly pleasurable about someone whose views contradict yours, whose ideas and arguments take you somewhere you haven't been before.
It's important, when conversing or communicating in general (I like to look at all communication as a conversation), to aim for establishing connections -- to conjure intimate moments between all parties. There is nothing more endearing than getting along well with someone you have never met before because both of you are completely open to a kind of intimacy.
There are many ways to establish intimacy, but I'll name here a few.
One. Imitate other people's gestures. People like people who look, talk, and act like them.
Two. Always smile. It welcomes others to talk to you. It also sets the mood for the conversation -- positive and light-hearted.
Three. Engage the eyes. Studies have shown that strangers who gaze into each other's eyes for a few minutes will begin to develop passionate feelings for one another. Gazing another's eyes can actually make her fall in love with you.
There are countless other things you can do. Find your own, and leave them here.
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